In this overly-complicated dating scene, we ignore clear red flags about our partners far too often. Blinded by lust or our hopes for the future, we mistakenly label love and continue to seek out the same partner, with the same patterns, ultimately creating the same heartbreak later on. Ignoring the signs right in front us, we spend far too long in dead-end relationships, finding ourselves back at square one time and time again. But if you pay attention to these glaring signs and behaviors, you can get the hell out of dodge sooner than later.
Are you wasting your time with the person you’re with? These 10 signs are sure to help you figure that out.
You Aren’t Their One and Only
Some people have an issue with monogamy and aren’t satisfied with just one partner; but if you seek monogamy while your partner continues to disrespect that, run! You should always be their one and only, and should never feel like you are in competition with anyone else. Some people treat their dating lives like an episode of The Bachelor and leave you with a roster of others to compete with, and nobody deserves that. You are a queen worthy of the right person’s love and attention.
You Don’t Trust Them
Trust is everything in a relationship. If you don’t have trust, you don’t have anything. If you have constant doubts about the whereabouts of your partner and find yourself sneaking through their DMs to confirm your suspicions, it isn’t healthy. Although society has normalized the idea of snooping through our partner’s phones and social media, if you have to go through such great measures to maintain a relationship, maybe that relationship isn’t the one for you.
He Doesn’t Claim You
A man proclaiming you are his partner proudly for everyone to see is a man who knows what he wants and isn’t interested in playing games with you. In this “situationship” era full of confusing dating rules, a man that will not only give you a title but most importantly, a man that will respect that title and make it clear to others, is a keeper.
The Relationship Isn’t Progressing
Relationships are all about growth. The people you were when you first started dating should not be who you are years into the relationship. If you aren’t witnessing your relationship reach new levels in every facet then why are you in it?
He’s a Liar
You never know who you’re dating when you date a liar, and that’s scary. If your current partner is constantly lying to you no matter how minor or major the issue, he isn’t the one.
He Lacks Goals and Ambition
A man that lacks goals and ambition can not want much for any relationship if he doesn’t want much for his own life. If he has no five-year plan, one-year plan, or even a plan for the weekend, what future can you really expect to build with him? Relationships should be about growth, both individually and as a unit, and if he has no desire to be a forward-thinking person, your relationship is sure to remain stagnant.
He Doesn’t Listen to You
If you’re constantly explaining yourself and your feelings to a man who couldn’t care less, he’s not the one for you. You deserve a partner who will listen to your wants, desires, needs, opinions and feelings without judgment, and you should do the same for him. You shouldn’t feel hesitant to express yourself, but instead, you should be embraced whenever you want to talk about what’s on your mind.
He Brings Out the Worst in You
If he brings out the crazy, jealous, or insecure traits in you, you’re not in a healthy relationship. Your partner should always bring out positive things in you, and push you towards being the best version of yourself. Bringing out the negative in you is counterproductive to your personal growth.
You Can’t Be Your Authentic Self
If you ever feel like you can’t be yourself around your partner or you are constantly pretending to be something you’re not, this is never a good sign. Your relationship is supposed to be a safe space for you to unwind and relax, judgment free. Be yourself. If he doesn’t bring you that contentment throughout your relationship, he may not be the one for you.
Your Goals For the Relationship Are Incompatible
If you want marriage, a white picket fence and dog named Toto but he’s still stuck on a situationship mindset and “seeing where this thing goes,” do not waste any more of your time. Compatibility is key in any relationship. It’s important that you list out just what you want out of a relationship and make sure your goals align with his. Understanding early on that the two of you aren’t on the same page can save you both time and unnecessary heartache.