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Multi-ethnic couple hugging in urban scene“Blasian” it is not something on fire. Well not really. Usually, it means a person that has Black and Asian parents but it also means Black and Asian couples becoming one and it can be found everywhere these days.

Was this interracial dating phenomenon a natural transition or forced? Well you decide.

When it comes to race it can affect everything. That includes getting a job, a lease, a loan, getting that promotion, getting into the club and yes, getting that marriage.

Black men face the expectations of hyper-masculinity, thuggish behaviour and exceptional endowment when operating in dating spheres. The endemic of this typecast was captured by Rutgers University, who piloted a study in 2015 that found 87% of white women surveyed wanted to sleep with black men but only 13% would consider dating or raising a family with a black man. These sorts of attitudes are problematic and reduce people, and often, ethnic minorities, to objects of sexual fantasy and nothing more. Black men are not just promiscuous things.

Some may say, Asian women are attracted to that stereotype or using Black men to rebel against family. That is another story to write.

As for Asian women, they tend to be perceived under the “model minority” category; even objects. The popular assumption is that because Asians are prone to achieving high levels of academic and economic success, while being non confrontational their relentless pursuit to be accepted into mainstream society makes them less likely to experience racial discrimination than other minorities and even less of a chance to hear them complain.

byk1ebuiyaehw9dWhen it comes to interracial dating you can’t help but internalize two things: differences in how you and your partner are treated by people outside of the relationship and how you and your partner understand those experiences. It is not a bed of roses.

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When considering any interracial relationship, there are always those men and women who are open to dating other races and those who are more likely to stick to their own race. Both Black men and Asian women marry outside their race at fairly high rates with 24% of Black men in the US married to non-Black women and 36% of Asian American women married to non-Asian. Here’s the latest data from the guys at Pew regarding everyone else.

• Hispanic men marry out 26%
• Hispanic women marry out 25%
• Asian men marry out 17%
• White men marry out 9.5%
• White women marry out 9.4%
• Black women marry out 9.3%
so it really just comes down to finding the right person.

maxresdefaultThe idea in reverse is also rising, Black women and Asian men. Interracial dating and marriage are more popular today than they have ever been. According to various studies, millennials certainly see race much differently than every previous generation in the US. Black women seem to be not only less likely to marry non-Black men, but less likely to marry at all. More and more Black women are stating maybe, Black women need to engage in more interracial dating.

Unfortunately, Social media is not helping. On one episode of “The Daily Show,” correspondents Jessica Williams and Ronny Chieng took a humorous yet hard-hitting look at a form of bigotry not often discussed: sexual racism.
“Racism affects nearly every aspect of life, even — and it truly pains me to say this — f**king,” host Trevor Noah said as he introduced the segment.

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Williams and Chieng specifically looked at how some groups, like black women and Asian men, faced undue discrimination in the world of online dating.

“There is kind of a systemic racial bias pretty much in every dating site I’ve ever looked at,” Christian Rudder, co-founder of OKCupid and author of the dating statistics book “Dataclysm,” told the duo. “We found that 82 percent of non-black men have some bias against black women… And Asian men get the fewest messages and the worst ratings of any group of guys.”

Everybody has had conversations with their friends about the kind of people they fancy – cutely summarised as a person’s ‘type’. And, if we’re being honest, we’ve all had conversations pertaining to what constitutes our ‘type’ and heard people say, or have said ourselves, that people of certain races and ethnicities don’t really get the juices flowing.

jessica-williams-the-daily-show-sexual-racism-1200x545_cIs it OK to have preferences when it comes to finding a partner or is that fancy talk for being racist?

Replace Asian men with Black women, and exchange perceptions of masculinity with perceptions of femininity, and Blasian couples may have more in common than anyone would have ever guessed.

Has Asian men been distorted to reflect femininity and Black women to reflect masculinized roles?

As “The Daily Show” segment explained, the discriminatory behavior exhibited by many online daters appeared to stem not from “preferences” at all, but from deep-rooted stereotypes evident in statements like, “[you’re] pretty for a black girl” or in outrageous assumptions such as all Asian men having small penises.

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In an outtake posted to social media, Williams and Chieng shared other offensive comments made on online dating profiles with writer Zach Stafford.

“Vanilla or spice, no chocolate or rice,” read one, with “chocolate” being a reference to black people and “rice” being a reference to Asians.

“People really like using food to talk about their racism,” Stafford quipped.

Media could have a major impact on the way people think. Blame the casting of these programs.
When speaking to a rep at BGRated.com (Background Rated talent agency Toronto) whom has placed various models and actors on TV shows and film about race they stated: In terms of casting, it’s harder for Black women and Asian men to get casted because it’s a question of, “Are they considered attractive? Are they approachable?” or “The role does not fit that culture.” A lot of the times they’re only presented in ways in which they’re “sterotyped.” Grrrrrr.

It is a shame we almost NEVER see Asians on TV or Blacks in a thought provoking role that does not involve sports or the law. These perceptions do trickle down into social groups.

sdfgdfgsdfgsdAMBW (Asian Men/Black Women) dating are still in the early stages, and with that comes developing issues. The social strife and supremacist ideas between the two gatherings in America— will have its haters.

We can only hope one day. Love will just be that, love. Not about race. One day.

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