Despacito has taken over the airwaves and YouTube eyeballs around the world.

The most viewed video on Youtube (original version), the Luis Fonsi and Daddy Yankee song is a sensual ditty that advocates slow lovemaking.

Erika Ender, the Latin Grammy Award winning songwriter behind the song said in a Huffington Post interview that:

“[‘Despacito’ is] about taking it slow, at first. We live in this rush all the time with technology and everything, sex goes really fast too. You have to treat women the way they want to be treated and I would like to be loved ‘despacito’ as a woman.”

Listening to the song got us thinking; does speed matter when it comes to lovemaking?

We asked a few of our Facebook friends and the responses were mixed.

A combination works for me….sometimes you just gotta have it and sometimes you want a thorough turning out,” said one woman in her 40s.

Another woman agreed: “Both, a quickie is so exciting and at times very satisfying and a little bit dirty. And then that slow wine it puts you in a relaxed mood, you don’t want it to end and you just like in a different world.”

Some women preferred a slower ride.

“Slow and easy does, who doesn’t like slow cooked meat … tasty and flavourful,” said another woman.

While some guys  said they were willing to do whatever women wanted, one dude admitted he didn’t have the patience.

“Ummm slow what? Money to make, tv to watch and worlds to conquer…my OCD will start counting the weave ridges in your hair,” he said

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Too bad for him. According to Men’s Fitness, slow is actually better for both parties when it comes to sex. For men, going slow means prolonging the experience since recovery time cannot be rushed, more production of pain-reducing compounds called neuropeptides and a more powerful climax.

And if a guy is interested in pleasing his partner, quickies may feel good but a longer ride ensures she reaches orgasm.

“Just because a woman is wet, that doesn’t mean she’s near climax. A good rule of thumb: Take the amount of time you think she needs, and double it. If she’s ready sooner, you’ll know it. Synchronicity is overrated. We girls don’t care when we have an orgasm—as long as we get one. The longer you stimulate us—and the slower you take things—the more likely that becomes,” the article advised.

Writing on the Blavity website, Keniece Ford broke down the biology on the workings of the female anatomy as further reason why slow is best.

“When there is a lot of hard, fast thrusting the vagina responds by creating a wall to protect itself and then becomes somewhat desensitized. A woman’s vagina is way more receptive to a man’s penis when she is fully aroused. Sure, aggressive sex can be fun and pleasurable but slow, deep, intentional love making is just as amazing. In fact, in my humble opinion, much more gratifying. Slow sex encourages deep intimacy. Frequent, fast sex can delay it. If you haven’t already, try it and thank me later.”

Did you know the lyrics to Despacito? Check them out.

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Slowly

I want to breathe your neck slowly.

Let me whisper things in your ear,

that you’ll remember when you’re not with me.

Slowly

I want to undress you with kisses slowly.

Sign the walls of your labyrinth

and turn your body into a manuscript.  

I want to see your hair dance, I want to be your rhythm

I want you to show my mouth your favorite places.

Let me surpass your danger zone,

until it makes you scream

and makes you forget your last name. 

Daddy Yankee:

Si te pido un beso, ven, dámelo. Yo sé que estás pensándolo.
Llevo tiempo intentándolo, mami, esto es dando y dándolo.
Sabes que tu corazón conmigo te hace bam-bam.
Sabes que esa beba está buscando de mi bam-bam.
Ven, prueba de mi boca para ver cómo te sabe.
Quiero, quiero, quiero ver cuánto amor a ti te cabe.
Yo no tengo prisa, yo me quiero dar el viaje.
Empezamos lento, después salvaje.

Pasito a pasito, suave suavecito.
Nos vamos pegando, poquito a poquito.
Cuando tú me besas con esa destreza
veo que eres malicia con delicadeza.
Pasito a pasito, suave suavecito.
Nos vamos pegando, poquito a poquito.
Y es que esa belleza es un rompecabezas,
pero pa’ montarlo aquí tengo la pieza.
¡Oye!

If I ask you for a kiss, come on, give it to me. I know you’re thinking about it.

I’ve spent a while trying, mami, this is give and giving.

You know your heart with me goes bam-bam.

You know what this babe wants from me is bam-bam.

Come, taste my mouth to see how it tastes to you.

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I want, want, want to see how much love fits in you.

I’m in no rush, I want to take the ride.

We’ll start slow and then go wild. 

Step by step, gentle gently.

We’ll get closer, little by little. 
When you kiss me with that skill,

I see that you are malice with finesse. 

Step by step, gentle gently.

We’ll get closer, little by little.
This beauty is a puzzle,

but to put it together I have the piece. 
Oye!

[CHORUS, 2x]

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