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Meagan Good Reflects on Engagement to Jonathan Majors: I Just Can’t Stop Smiling

Actress Meagan Good is thriving in this season of her life. During a recent interview with Entertainment Tonight, promoting the final season of Harlem, the actress explained why this is one of the happiest seasons of her life. Her current partner, Jonathan Majors, was one of many reasons. When asked about her relationship with the former actor, Good said, “It’s amazing.”

“I can’t stop smiling because God is just so interesting,” she said. I would have never anticipated what may seem like the craziest season outwards to it being the most peaceful, freeing, joyful, fun, adventurous, self-discovery, and all those things for me. And so, I’m just in a place of peace and complete thankfulness,” she added.

Good and Majors got engaged in November 2024 after becoming public as an item in May 2023. The couple began dating during a tumultuous time for Majors as he was in the middle of a domestic assault trial with his ex-girlfriend, Grace Jabbari. The actor was sentenced in April 2024 and avoided jail time but was ordered to complete a counseling program and attend 52 weeks of in-person domestic abuser’s intervention. As part of his sentencing, Majors was also required to continue routine mental health therapy sessions.

During a recent interview with the Breakfast Club, Good said that despite Major’s legal battles, she didn’t feel overwhelmed.

“I was talking to God and I knew I was exactly where I was supposed to be. I’ve learned along the way that not only will things not always make sense to me, but sometimes they won’t make sense to other people — and that’s okay,” she said. “As long as you are in alignment with God and you’re trusting the path that you’re on, that’s it. And the more that I’ve done that, the happier I’ve been. I don’t know when I’ve been this happy before. I think I might have been a kid when I was this happy before.”

Good was previously married to DeVon Franklin, but they split after 9 years of marriage. Franklin filed for divorce in December 2021 and they finalized their split in June 2022.

“As crazy as, not even just this last year, the last few years have been for me, this is the happiest I’ve been in a long time. And it’s pretty wonderful,” said Good to AP news on January 22. “I’m just thankful for the journey and I’m thankful to be loved.”

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2025 Grammy Awards Performers Announced: Doechii, Shakira, Sabrina Carpenter, And More

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The 2025 Grammys are just weeks away and the first round of performers for the event have been announced. The diverse array stars who will hit the stage aim to represent an exciting and impressive year of hits on music’s biggest night.

Billie Eilish, Shakira, Chappell Roan, Charli XCX, and Sabrina Carpenter are all set to perform at the event, which will be hosted by Trevor Noah and take place on Feb. 2. Other nominees including Benson Boone, RAYE, and Teddy Swims will perform as well. Additional performers will be announced soon.

For the first time, Doechii will show off her ferocious live performance skills on the Grammy stage. 2024 marked a breakout year for the Florida rapper, as she delivered Alligator Bites Never Heal, her debut mixtape met with critical acclaim.

The “Persuasive” rapper’s confidence is unwavering, and she says she feels fully prepared for her moment. “I’m not nervous at all; I’m actually really excited. I feel like it’s deserved. I’ve been working hard, so I’m honored. I’m the only female in the Hip-Hop category, so I’m representing female rap. I’m very ready,” she told TMZ earlier this week.

After the Los Angeles wildfires left a devastating impact on the event’s host city, the Recording Academy confirmed the Grammys “will proceed as planned.” The show will be “raising additional funds to support wildfire relief efforts and honoring the bravery and dedication of first responders.”

Highlights from this year’s list of nominations include Beyoncé’s Cowboy Carter album garnering the Houston artist 11 nominations, including for Album of the Year, which she’s yet to be awarded. Also, Kendrick Lamar collected nods in Record of The Year, Song of The Year, Best Rap Song (“Like That” and “Not Like Us”), and Best Music Video and Best Rap Performance (“Like That” and “Not Like Us”).

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Carmelo Anthony Discusses Viral Photo with Rihanna

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Carmelo Anthony is shedding light on what was going down and what was behind his facial expression in his viral “risk it all” photo with Rihanna.

Carmelo Anthony Breaks Down His Facial Expression & Viral “Risk It All” Photo With Rihanna

Earlier this week, a new episode of Anthony’s podcast, ‘7PM in Brooklyn,’ was released via YouTube. About an hour and twenty-eight minutes into the episode, Melo was asked to share “what was going on” in his viral photo with Rihanna at a 2014 event associated with the Met Gala.

In the flick, Melo is seen staring at Rihanna while she seemingly posed for photos.

To date, his expression has left social media puzzled, with some believing he was ready to “risk it all” for Rih.

“We already in there having a good time. Every time… a celebrity comes in, the cameras go crazy… It’s commotion when you walk in there. I finally walk in, and get through the cameras, and sit down — now I found my comfort zone, sitting down… trying to be low” he said.

At that point, Rihanna arrived, per Melo.

“Rih walks in [and] camera go crazy… All you see is white flashes,” he said. “And… there’s only one area to go to, and I’m like, ‘Please don’t come over here.’ The flashes is going, so I put my head down, and I look up, and she’s right there posing… And I’m like, ‘Really?’”

Social Media Reacts

Social media users reacted to his explanation for his viral “risk it all” photo with Rihanna in the comment section of the podcast’s Instagram account.

Instagram user @brownskin_tommy wrote, “Nah he definitely look like ‘why tf she bring them over here’”

While Instagram user @nash_pvckinsta added, “All New Yorkers do that face when they do that “are you serious right now” look😂😂😂😂😂”

Instagram user @silentstare wrote, “The story makes sense but the angle of that shot made it look crazy. 🤣😂🤣”

While Instagram user @lindodalion added, “We Needed Th@ Backstory. Preciate Ya 😂😂😂”

Instagram user @soldwithcyn wrote, “He definitely looked like he was annoyed. He didn’t give that ‘ready to risk it face’ He gave that ‘ If you don’t get that camera up out my face dawg’ look lol”

While Instagram user @roldanav_ added, “Everyone been thinking Melo was bout to risk it all but really he was just irritated af 😭😭”

Instagram user @divinekeahcreations wrote, “Bahahaha it makes so much sense hahaha cuz he was mugging 😂😂”

While Instagram user @ceomitch added, “I never seen you look like that bro, what’s goin on??’ 😂😂😂”

Instagram user @knicksomnifan wrote, “That’s his story & he’s sticking to it! 😂“

La La Anthony Made Headlines After Revealing Why She Hasn’t Dropped Carmelo Anthony’s Last Name

As BlkCosmo previously reported, in August 2024, Carmelo made headlines by way of his ex-wife La La Anthony. At the time, La spoke about not changing her last time despite her and Melo being divorced. Furthermore, she explained that the success of her and Melo’s son, Kiyan, in the sport has weighed on the decision.

RELATED: La La Anthony Reveals Why She Hasn’t Changed Her Last Name Despite Divorce From Carmelo

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Chris Brown’s Lawyer Criticizes Warner Brothers Over Handling of Rape Allegations in New Docuseries

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A$AP Rocky Prosecutors Asking Prospective Jurors Questions About Rihanna

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Stress Relief Strategies for Mothers to Conquer Overwhelming Feelings in 2023

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Some days, I feel like I’m suffocating. It feels like the demand of raising two human beings has personified itself and is wrapping its fingers around my neck, cutting off my air supply little by little. As others have said, “Motherhood got hands,” and Sis doesn’t always play nice. On those days, I can recognize I am overwhelmed. However, managing stress during those peak moments of overburden is not always intuitive. When you feel submerged by all you have to do and be, seeing your way out, let alone managing stress, can seem unfathomable. But a full year of therapy, with much of the work being centered around mothering, has helped me to understand the opposite. Trials will always present themselves, but how we respond to and manage stress is the secret to withstanding periods of difficulty in this parenting journey.

Listen to Your Body

The first step of stress management is recognizing when you are overwhelmed. Some of the initial indicators that we are under pressure are not emotional but physical. “Focus on your body because it will tell you,” Sara Elysée, licensed mental health counselor, certified clinical trauma professional, and founder of SoundMind Wellness, tells Black Cosmopolitan. “That brain-body connection — it does show up. For one person, it could be a headache. It could be increased feelings of irritability. Sometimes, it’s stomach issues. Even though we may not think we know our bodies, we do. Listen to your body.”

Recognize Your Triggers

In addition to knowing when you’re stressed, it’s also essential to recognize what stresses you. Your patterns may not be obvious to you immediately; however, keeping a log or journal when you feel under duress may help you to identify common triggers.

Say “No”

At the start of my journey as a full-time working mom, a wise woman once told me, “You are working harder than you will ever work in your entire life. You’re working hard at work establishing your career, and you’re working hard at home as a mom of small children.” Recognizing when you’re in one of those grueling seasons is essential, and saying no is not just recommended; it’s a survival requirement. “When you don’t feel like doing something or you don’t have the capacity to do things, say ‘No,’” Elysée admonishes. “You cannot do it all. If you have to delegate within your own means, delegate. If there are things you can let go of because we have different seasons in life, let go of them if it’s not too important. If it’s a night where you’re too tired to cook, order out.”

Ask for Help

Struggling as a mom can be shame-inducing and produce feelings of inadequacy. Decades of unrealistic expectations placed on the shoulders of women have programmed many moms and the people around them to believe women should be able to do it all.

“‘I can’t ask for help because if I ask for help, that means I can’t handle things. I can’t be vulnerable. Or I don’t want other moms to think that I can’t do it because I see that they can do it all, and they are doing it all. Why can’t I?’ Let go of that guilt,” Elysée says. “Let go of that idea that you have to do everything.”

Establish Routines

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If you are in a particularly stressful season, you may be too overwhelmed to think about routines. However, when you have the headspace for it, examining your practices and looking for ways to make them more efficient can make a world of difference. We may not be able to control life’s curveballs, but we can control the structure we give ourselves and our children by building tight routines. Some particularly helpful ones may include packing lunch and laying out clothes the night before a school day or staying up for a time after the kids go to bed to tidy up and reset your home.

Coping When There’s No Village

The absence of the village is a common issue discussed amongst today’s parents. The reality is that not all of us have a tribe to lean on, and for some of us who do, the people in our village may not be able to help with day-to-day parenting challenges. To that, Elysée advises overwhelmed moms, “If you don’t have a village, build one. If you do, drop them off, but if you don’t, leverage what you have.”

In 2025, some of us will have to pay for the village, and that’s okay. I consider the staff at my infant’s daycare and my kindergartner’s school to be an essential part of my village. They love my babies, and we love them back. I trust them, and I am eternally grateful for them.

Look for the Bright Spots

Finding ways to make the things we have to do but don’t necessarily want to do more enjoyable is a great way to boost your mood and lower stress. For a mom with a long commute, this could look like listening to an audiobook, a beloved playlist, or an engaging podcast. For moms who are struggling with chores, this could look like purchasing appliances or technology that make your cleaning routine easier. If you have to do it anyway, consider how you can find happiness in it. “Focus on moments instead of the entire day,” Elysée shares.“Right now, I’m sitting down, and it’s so quiet. Oh the kids are playing, look at them. Look at what I created.”

Schedule “You” Time

“You are giving yourself to so many people. Your children and whomever else is in your life. You have to set aside time for yourself,” says Elysée. “I always give this as therapy homework. Go into your calendar, and I don’t care if it’s this month or next; put yourself on that calendar. Do something for yourself. Make it an appointment. Start small. If the kids are in daycare or school and you have the ability to take a day off, take that day off and spend that time with yourself before they come home.” And when you schedule that you time, do nothing. “Don’t do any housework,” she adds. “Just do something that makes you happy.”

Be Self-Aware

A major key for momming while overwhelmed is not making a routine of allowing our stress to spill over onto our children. Elysée says it’s essential to peep when you’ve stepped out of bounds and take inventory of those patterns.

“You have to recognize when you’re outside of your element. ‘Oh, I’m acting outside of my character. The way I’m responding to my kids, it doesn’t make me feel good.’ But you also need to have that self-compassion because we’re not going to get it right all the time. On the days you didn’t get it right, and you didn’t respond the right way, and you snapped, once you recognize it, just say, ‘I’m sorry.’ Then, after a while, you will start to see the patterns,” she says. “We all have patterns, and you have to ask yourself, do I want to continue this way? No. And if that’s the case, mommy might need a timeout. You can communicate to the kids, ‘Mommy might need a timeout right now because I feel a little overwhelmed.’ They see you as a person, and they see you as human. They’re watching a mom who can regulate and recognize her emotions. They’re seeing those behaviors, and you’re helping them to build their emotional intelligence.”

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Lori Harvey to Cover Playboy’s First Print Issue Since 2020

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Playboy is coming back to newsstands, announcing Lori Harvey as the chosen cover girl for the return-to-print issue.

Both Harvey and Playboy shared the news to their respective social media handles Thursday (Jan. 23), posting a behind-the-scenes clip of Harvey’s cover photoshoot. The beauty is seen wearing a backless dress in one scene and a low-cut, sequin bodysuit and feathered boots in another, as she leans atop a car with “Playboy” sprawled across the license plate. Check out the teaser below.

The issue is set to hit newsstands Feb. 10, with pre-orders available here. Published since 1953 and founded by Hugh Hefner, Playboy‘s Spring 2020 issue was the last to go to print, with the decision to go exclusively digital spawned by the COVID-19 pandemic. It was announced in 2024, however, that the print edition would be returning annually. The upcoming February issue is set to be released at a launch event and celebration during the Super Bowl Weekend in New Orleans.

“Playboy is the quintessential iconic brand, and it has always been more than a magazine – it is the original creator business that has launched hundreds of careers over the past seventy years,” said Ben Kohn, Chief Executive Officer of PLBY Group in a statement. “Our mission is to return Playboy to prominence, and our Playboy Club creators will be integral to that effort. We are partnering with them to develop content across all channels, including web, social, commerce, events and the print magazine. The decision to reintroduce Playboy magazine reflects the Company’s commitment to adapting to the evolving media landscape while preserving the brand’s rich heritage, including the high-quality journalism, compelling storytelling, and provocative content that has defined Playboy for decades.”

The cover comes one year after Harvey made her Sports Illustrated cover debut in February of 2024, where she donned her own Yevrah Swimwear Collection for the sexy beach shots. Check them out below.
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Self-Actualization: A Modern Guide to Reaching Your Full Potential


Imagine standing at the base of a mountain. The peak represents your highest potential—not just success or achievement, but the fullest expression of who you can become. This is self-actualization: the journey toward realizing your complete potential. But unlike a mountain climb, this journey isn’t just about reaching the top. It’s about who you become along the way.

In our fast-paced modern world, where external measures of success often overshadow internal growth, understanding self-actualization has never been more crucial. It offers a framework for meaningful personal development that goes beyond superficial achievements to touch the core of human potential.

The Evolution of Self-Actualization

The story of self-actualization in psychology begins with a revolutionary idea: that humans are naturally driven toward growth and self-improvement. While Abraham Maslow popularized this concept through his hierarchy of needs, the journey to our modern understanding of self-actualization reveals a fascinating evolution of thought about human potential.

Maslow’s initial framework placed self-actualization at the peak of a pyramid, suggesting it was an achievement reserved for those who had satisfied more basic needs. This hierarchical model, while groundbreaking for its time, painted a somewhat rigid picture of human development. It suggested that we needed to progress through needs in a linear fashion—from physiological requirements through safety, love, and esteem—before reaching toward self-actualization.

However, human experience rarely follows such neat categorizations. Consider the artist who creates masterpieces while struggling financially, or the social activist who finds profound purpose in helping others despite personal hardships. These examples challenge the strict hierarchical view and point toward a more nuanced understanding of human growth.

Modern psychology has transformed self-actualization from an elite achievement to an accessible path of continuous growth. This shift reflects a deeper understanding of human resilience and adaptability. We now recognize that people can pursue growth and meaning even while grappling with basic challenges—a reality that many throughout history have demonstrated.

Contemporary Understanding

Today’s view of self-actualization is more dynamic and inclusive than ever before. Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman’s sailboat metaphor elegantly captures this modern perspective. Rather than a rigid pyramid, imagine your journey as sailing across vast waters. The boat’s hull represents your basic security needs—the foundation that keeps you afloat. The sail embodies your capacity for growth and exploration, catching the winds of opportunity and challenge. The rudder symbolizes your social connections and relationships, helping you navigate through life’s waters.

This metaphor beautifully illustrates how different aspects of our development work together. Just as a sailboat needs all its parts functioning together for optimal performance, our growth involves the interplay of security, exploration, and connection. Sometimes we need to focus on strengthening our hull, ensuring our basic needs are met. Other times, we can unfurl our sails fully, taking advantage of favorable winds to explore new horizons.

What makes this model particularly powerful is its recognition of simultaneity—we can work on different aspects of our development concurrently, rather than in strict sequence. This better reflects the reality of human experience, where growth often happens across multiple dimensions at once.

Cross-Cultural Perspectives

The journey to self-actualization takes different forms across cultures, reflecting diverse values and worldviews. Eastern philosophies, for instance, often emphasize harmony and balance rather than individual achievement. The Buddhist concept of self-realization focuses on transcending the ego rather than enhancing it—a fascinating counterpoint to Western individualistic approaches.

In many African cultures, the concept of Ubuntu—”I am because we are”—suggests that personal growth is inseparable from community development. This perspective challenges the Western emphasis on individual achievement, suggesting instead that self-actualization occurs through our connections with others and our contributions to community well-being.

Latin American cultures often view personal development through the lens of family and community relationships. The concept of “familismo” emphasizes that individual growth is deeply intertwined with family harmony and collective well-being. This offers a valuable perspective on how self-actualization can be pursued within, rather than separate from, family obligations and relationships.

Indigenous perspectives add another layer of understanding, often emphasizing harmony with nature and connection to ancestral wisdom as crucial elements of personal growth. These viewpoints remind us that self-actualization isn’t just about individual development—it’s about finding our place within the larger web of life and community.

The Science of Growth

Recent advances in neuroscience and psychology have deepened our understanding of how self-actualization works at a biological and psychological level. Research in neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to form new neural connections throughout life—provides scientific backing for what humanistic psychologists have long claimed: that humans have an innate capacity for growth and change throughout their lives.

Studies in positive psychology have identified key factors that contribute to personal growth and flourishing. These include the importance of challenging experiences that stretch our capabilities without overwhelming them, the crucial role of social support networks in facilitating growth, and the profound impact of having a sense of purpose on psychological well-being.

One particularly interesting finding is the relationship between purpose and resilience. Research shows that people who have a clear sense of purpose demonstrate greater resilience in the face of adversity. This suggests that self-actualization isn’t just about personal fulfillment—it’s also about developing the capacity to handle life’s challenges effectively.

The science of flow states, pioneered by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, provides insight into optimal experiences that contribute to growth. These states of deep engagement, where we lose track of time and are fully absorbed in challenging but manageable tasks, appear to be crucial for developing our capabilities and experiencing fulfillment.

Practical Pathways to Growth

Understanding self-actualization is one thing; actively pursuing it is another. Here are key practices that research and experience suggest can facilitate personal growth:

Mindful Self-Awareness

The foundation of growth is self-awareness. This involves more than casual self-reflection—it requires developing the capacity to observe our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors with curiosity and compassion. Regular mindfulness practice can help develop this awareness, creating space between stimulus and response where growth can occur.

Consider starting each day with a brief mindfulness practice. This might involve simply sitting quietly for five minutes, observing your breath and thoughts without judgment. Over time, this practice can develop into a powerful tool for self-understanding and conscious choice.

Purposeful Challenge

Growth occurs at the edge of our comfort zone. This doesn’t mean constantly pushing ourselves to extremes, but rather regularly engaging with challenges that stretch our capabilities. These challenges should be meaningful—aligned with our values and aspirations rather than arbitrary difficulties.

For example, if public speaking terrifies you but aligns with your professional goals, gradually exposing yourself to speaking opportunities—starting with small groups and working up to larger audiences—can foster significant growth. The key is finding the right level of challenge: enough to stimulate growth but not so much that it overwhelms.

Authentic Connection

Meaningful relationships provide both support and challenge for our growth. These connections offer mirrors for self-reflection, support during difficulties, and opportunities for authentic self-expression. Building and maintaining such relationships requires vulnerability and courage—qualities that themselves facilitate growth.

Focus on developing relationships characterized by honesty, mutual support, and genuine interest in each other’s growth. These might be friendships, mentoring relationships, or participation in communities aligned with your values and aspirations.

Creative Expression

Creativity isn’t just for artists—it’s a fundamental aspect of human growth. Whether through traditional artistic pursuits, problem-solving at work, or finding novel solutions to life challenges, creative expression helps us explore and expand our capabilities.

Find ways to express yourself creatively that feel authentic to you. This might involve writing, music, visual arts, or creative approaches to everyday tasks. The medium matters less than the process of expressing yourself authentically.

Service and Contribution

Contributing to others’ well-being often catalyzes our own growth. This isn’t about sacrificing your needs for others, but rather finding ways to use your gifts and capabilities in service of something larger than yourself.

Look for opportunities to contribute that align with your values and capabilities. This might involve formal volunteering, mentoring others, or simply bringing more care and attention to your daily interactions with others.

The path of growth inevitably involves challenges and setbacks. Understanding common obstacles and strategies for navigating them can help maintain momentum through difficult times.

Fear and Resistance

Fear of change, even positive change, is natural. Our brains are wired to prefer the familiar, even when it’s not serving us well. Acknowledging this fear while gently continuing to move forward is key. Remember that resistance often signals that we’re moving in a meaningful direction.

Perfectionism

The pursuit of growth can sometimes become entangled with perfectionism, leading to self-criticism and paralysis. Remember that growth is about progress, not perfection. Celebrate small steps forward and learn from setbacks rather than seeing them as failures.

External Pressures

Societal expectations and obligations can seem to conflict with personal growth. The key is finding ways to integrate growth with your existing responsibilities rather than seeing them as opposing forces. Sometimes, the constraints in our lives can actually provide structure and opportunities for growth.

The Ongoing Journey

Self-actualization is not a destination but an ongoing journey of becoming. Each step forward reveals new horizons of possibility. The goal is not to reach some final state of perfection but to engage fully with the process of growth itself.

This journey requires patience, compassion for ourselves and others, and trust in the process of growth. It involves celebrating progress while remaining open to further development. Most importantly, it requires staying connected to what matters most to us—our values, relationships, and sense of purpose.

As you continue on your own journey of growth, remember that each person’s path is unique. What matters is not comparing yourself to others but rather staying true to your own authentic path of development. The question is not “Have I reached my full potential?” but rather “Am I moving in the direction of growth?”

In the end, self-actualization is about becoming more fully ourselves while contributing to the world in meaningful ways. It’s about growing not just for our own sake, but in service of something larger than ourselves. As you walk this path, may you find both the courage to grow and the wisdom to appreciate each step of the journey.

What step will you take today toward your own growth and development? The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, and that step is always available to you, right here, right now.

Imani Perry: Experimental Histories of Black Life (Books of enlightenment)

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Imani Perry teaches at Harvard and is the author of “South to America,” a genre-mixing exploration of the American South, and, most recently, “Black in Blues,” a critical appraisal of the role of the color blue in the Black imagination. She joined us recently to discuss a selection of experimental histories about Black life—books that instruct us in “how to create something beautiful and sustaining, and not give up on a sense of the value of one’s own presence in society, or on all the intimacies that are so important for a life, even when they can be ruptured so easily.” Her remarks have been edited and condensed.

Begin Again

by Eddie S. Glaude, Jr.

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There is a conventional judgment that the James Baldwin of the seventies and the eighties was a Baldwin in decline—that the height of his literary powers had passed, and he was sort of falling apart. What this book does is say, No, something else happened. Baldwin was confronted with the deaths of certain people—including Medgar Evers, Malcolm X, and Martin Luther King, Jr.—and his grief led to a crisis, where he had to ask himself whether the vision of America that he had been invested in was, perhaps, not actually possible. And that produced a kind of fragmentation—a sense of wound—that made its way into his compositions.

Part of why I love this book is because so many of the engagements with James Baldwin treat him as just an icon. Like Octavia Butler, Baldwin is somebody who gets quoted a lot in a diagnostic way. But here, Baldwin is seen as a kind of walking partner, someone accompanying you through the contemporary landscape, to think alongside while confronting questions like, Well, what do we do? How do we confront the persistent heartbreak that’s part of what it means to live as a Black American?

To the Realization of Perfect Helplessness

by Robin Coste Lewis

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This book emerged from Lewis finding a suitcase of photographs underneath her grandmother’s bed—some of the photographs are interspersed throughout the text, which is mostly poetry, with some prose. The book is really a document of the migration of her family, who were part of the migration of Black people from Louisiana to Los Angeles.

The way that Lewis writes about bodies and selves and conjures up people who were absent or lost along the way is really profound to me. Another reason I find this book so powerful is because it is, of course, a story of displacement, terror, and violence, but it’s also a story of homemaking in the face of those things. In the middle, there’s a poem about the Arctic explorer Matthew Henson. I read it as an analogy, casting Henson as a Black explorer who goes off into the freezing landscape to try to make a life there. The book really captures movement as something terrifying, sublime, and hopeful.

Rooted

by Brea Baker

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In some ways, this book is a primer on the history of land theft and its relationship to both Black Americans and Indigenous people. Baker thinks about it in the context of settler colonialism, legal tactics like adverse possession—through which the government basically appropriated land owned by Black families—the failed promises of the Reconstruction era, and swindling. Baker also turns to Southern Black culture, which places great value in the ownership of land, not because of some desire to accumulate or to dominate, but because of how the land makes it possible to create relationships and homes and families. She talks about the history of her ancestors in North Carolina, who lost their land, and then goes on to her own story, with her wife and their family. I think the book balances itself very well between, on the one hand, critiques of Western conceptions of property, and, on the other, thinking about how, in a society that is organized around property, having property allows you to imagine your life differently.

Stand in My Window

by LaTonya Yvette

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This is a kind of hybrid memoir, featuring beautiful images. A big part of it is about Yvette building a home in Hudson that is going to function as a kind of artist’s retreat at the same time that she gets an eviction notice—which she fights—at her home in New York. It also incorporates reflections on the sense of home she inherited from her family. When she was a child, her family was pretty transient, because of poverty, but she talks about how she watched her parents create beauty in their homes even when those homes weren’t necessarily stable.

One thing that strikes me about this book is how she talks about things like dressing the table, and what hour you gather people around it to eat. It reminded me of the rituals of my grandmother, who maintained them in the face of Jim Crow. We still need those kinds of rituals. In a way, I feel like that’s the perennial question for me—what is the usable past, in terms of these rituals? In terms of ways of thinking and ways of being?

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Tamar Braxton and Her Mother to Launch Cooking Show in March

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Tamar Braxton wears many hats, but this time around she has on the chef one. The singer and TV personality is going to be back on TV screens with her mother, popularly known as Ms E, via a new television series. The show, which is called Cooking Sessions with Tamar & Ms. E., will give viewers a front-row seat to the mother-daughter duo cooking some of their favorite dishes. What adds an extra sprinkle of warmth to the show is that the Braxton’s will both be making their own versions of their family recipes.

In a trailer preview of the show, the mother and daughter can be seen conversing, laughing and making delectable dishes like sautéed cabbage, cheeseburgers, and more.

According to a press release regarding the upcoming show, Cooking Sessions with Tamar & Ms. E., features “soulful recipes,” and “heartfelt conversations” with the hosts “creating an experience that feels like an intimate, family gathering! They’re opening the doors to their Braxton family kitchen to celebrate life, laughs, and inspire fans with stories and flavors that honor their culture, family, and resilience.”

Viewers can also expect a guest appearance from Tamar’s older sister Trina Braxton.

The upcoming cooking series is produced by Powerhouse Productions. Rochelle Brown and Sonia Armstead serve as Executive Producers of the show, while Kenneth Colbert is the Senior Producer. Tamar Braxton also serves as an Executive Producer for Tamar Braxton Productions, and Evelyn Braxton. Austyn Biggers is the Senior Vice President of Programming and Production and Susan Henry is the VP, Original Programming and Production for CLEO TV.

The series is set to premiere on Wednesday, March 26 at 9 p.m. ET/CT on CLEO TV. Tune in to show some support!

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